I know, I know, I'm blessed to have seen another year. I get that, but it changes nothing LOL. A few years back I adopted a coping mechanism. I started treating my birthdays as if they were my "New Years". It was my way of looking at aging as an exciting work in progress, rather then a slow walk to the guillotine.
Each year on the anniversary of my birth, I came up with my vision for the next 12 months.What did I want to accomplish in a years time. It worked, I was moving through my year with a goal in mind and I felt a sense of pride in the fact that I was attaining things I'd dreamed of. There was still something missing though, and I really didn't put it together until recently.
Sure, I was setting and achieving certain goals but to what end. As this birthday approached, my emotions again started getting the better of me. Then, one day as I was driving to work my spirit said to me, "You're thinking too small. You are only looking 12 months out, but what about 12 years from now. What do you want the culmination of these months to add up to?" That question was profound to me. I mean, I didn't know, I had a loose idea of what I wanted but I'd never looked at making my annual goals count towards a bigger plan.
I mean seriously, if you don't know where you want to go, how can you go about getting there. This thinking was text book for me. I had heard it hundreds of times in my life, but I guess it hadn't clicked until recently. It's like getting on the road and just driving without a destination in mind, taking life as it comes. In my twenties and early thirties I saw life as a random series of events to be lived through, learning lessons along the way. Then I got older. I'm not knocking that approach. I lived that approach, but getting older, at least in my case, has made me realize that it's important to use your time here wisely and FOR A PURPOSE, you only have a certain amount of year, do you bullshit it away investing in people and things that do nothing but waste your time (you know who and what they are) or do you look at the bigger picture? decide what you want all of this time to add up to and start working towards that year by year.
As I look out my window and see 40 walking down my street, I realize I am the type of person who has to have a plan. It would be easier for me to live the random life, but I am a bit of an analytic in many ways. Things have to make sense. I firmly believe we are here to learn lessons, but also to be an asset to our bloodlines. As a black American, my ancestor went through pure hell for me to sit here and type out this blog. So many didn't even make it to the shores of America during the passage from Africa. Many bloodlines were also extinguished during slavery, but I am here, which means my bloodlines are strong, I am the product of winners and survivors. It's up to me to see that when I leave this earth, my family has accomplished more than my fore fathers. I honestly could speak about that for hours but I will stay in my lane this time. LOL (I told you I was a thinker.)
Yes! this is also, a SUPER SPECIAL BIRTHDAY BLOG!!!!!
I happen to share birthdays with two other very talented writers (Stephanie Williams and Eden Royce) and we are celebrating our birthday by giving you(yes, you) a chance to win a gift. Each one of us are having a give away. So, how can you win a gift from your's truly Gynger Fyer. It's simple. We all have key words in our blogs. You must read our blogs and locate our individual key words. Once you have the key words "Instant Message" them to me on Face Book. If you are not on FB, you can e-mail them to me at email@example.com One lucky winner will receive their choice of a $25 gift certificate for Amazon.com, $20 gas card or a $50 gift card to Macy's!!!!
You have until 7p.m. Eastern Standard Time on 08/04/2013 to provide all three key words so your name can be entered into the contest!! What are you waiting for?? Get busy blog hopping!!!
Stephanie Williams Blog: http://stephaniewilliamsauthor.wordpress.com/
Eden Royce's Blog:
AFTER THOUGHT: (HINT-Keyword is below)
After hearing me moan about turning 39, a good friend of mine told me 40 was fun! At the time I didn't believe that statement. However, with my new found clarity. I can see that 40 can be fun and so can 50 and 60 and 70 and 80 and 90. If I am blessed to see those years, I can't wait to discover the knowledge and wisdom those years will bring. I can't wait to see how that knowledge will impact my writing. I hope you will be there with me throughout this journey. I pray that romance and love will always have relevance in your life. I thank you for reading this post and all of the ones I've written in the last 12 months. I pray that they were an inspiration to you.Speaking of inspiration. Here are some pics of people who are inspiring me for my birthday! My keyword is something all of these ladies have "Fyer"
|Raquel Welch 70+|
|stunning and beautiful 56-year-old executive who continues to live healthy and love life.|