Wednesday, May 29, 2013

Guest blog with my favorite adult film star Michael Stefano!!

Michael Stefano Bio Pic 1

I have a very special blog today. Do you know the hot guy in this picture. If you said yes, then you are probably thinking of some of his ultra HOT work right about now LOL. If you don't know this guy, you should, and you will after reading this blog.
    The guy in question is none other than former adult film star, now videographer, producer and director (Yes he does it all) Michael Stefano!!! 
    To say I am a fan of Michael and his work is like asking me if the Pope is Catholic. I stumbled upon his work years ago and was impressed by the quality of the films as well as the chemistry he had with his co-stars. He seemed to foster a sense of intimacy in his adult films by kissing and joking around, which makes it enjoyable for me, a female viewer. Yes, I know, most adult films are made by men for men, yet you would be surprised at the number of women who enjoy adult films. As a writer of romance and erotica, Michael's films have helped me get in the mood to write a few hot and steamy scenes in my stories. I especially love his IR(interracial) work which is featured prominently on his website. 
    I became friends with Michael  a little while ago and have made a few observations, 
  1. He loves SEX and he loves his work
  2. He works hard
  3. He is very open and honest and is a get to the point kinda guy. 
I like that about him.Although he no longer performs, he still remains dedicated to the profession; working behind the scenes producing and directing high quality adult films. I admire Michael as a person and a professional because he is serious about his craft. Every time we chat, he's working either in LA or in some exotic country. I honestly don't know if this Italian Stallion even sleeps! LOL At any rate, I am grateful that the took time out of his super busy schedule to do my blog. So, without further adieu, herrrrrrreeeeeesssss MICHAEL!!

  •     So, Michael for those who may not not be familiar with  your nor your work in the adult film industry, tell them about yourself: who are you and how did you start in adult films?I am Michael Stefano, born on 19 August 1969, I am an Italian - American. I had couple of jobs, but since I love sex, I had some connections through them I joined Adult Industry.

  • From starring in movies to producing them you really have done it all in the Adult Industry. Do you find it better being the lead in an adult film or the producer and why?Being a Producer... it's more challenging.

  •  The adult file business has many challenges as you well know, what's one of the major challenges in  your professional opinion? Porn is still taboo for many societies.
          I agree, even though we seem more comfortable with nudity and sex, porn is still taboo. I personally think of porn as a tool in my sexual health tool box. It's something you can enjoy by yourself or with a partner. We see a lot more sex in films and on TV which to me is just low grade porn, yet adult films tend to be frowned upon in general.

  • So tell me Michael, what do you do when you’re not producing films?I hang out with friends, or Sports.

  • I've seen a ton of your films and have my personal favorites, but, I want to know which of your films is your favorite and why? I love to fuck, I love all my movies, I prefer Tease Me Then Please Me.

LOL,  Some how I knew you would bring up your love of sex!! I actually saw Tease Me, Then Please Me and I can see why it's your favorite. It's super hot. I love the kissing among the other things you do with your mouth ;) ...and other parts LOL.

  • Okay, if I rode shot gun with you, what would an average day in your life consist of? Well, Of course work, then playing some sports and then friend visits. 

  • When creating your films, where do you get your inspiration from and what motivates you? I love sex, I love to try new things and  I love to take up challenges, they are motivating.

  • If you could do it all over again, would you choose the adult film profession or is there something else you have a passion for? I love to fuck, I would still choose to be an Adult Film Star, and fuck as many women as possible.
LOL Looks like you've found your dream job then! 

  • Okay my final question, as an Italian, what’s your favorite Italian dish? Pasta

take it like that
Do you know how many types of pasta there is?? LOL
take it in general
How about an Italian dish??
it is Italian
LOL OK Michael!! Ur so crazy

  • Since you have to be difficult on the Pasta question, how long does it take you to come? 
1 hour
SHIT!!! Good lord man! An HOUR??? That's a long time

when I start my career I used to cum in 10 minutes but, experience increased it.
You sure got a lot of experience to go from 10 minutes to an hour!!! Well Michael, thank you for taking the time to do my blog!

I hope you found my guest spot with Michael both insightful and entertaining. If you are interested in learning more about Michael or his work, he has an amazing website which caters to all tastes.

                                                  (YOU MUST BE 18 OR OLDER)

Wednesday, May 22, 2013

Author Don Abdul talks to the Romance Arsonist in this cozy little interview

Have you ever met a person and knew right away that you would be friends? Well that's how I felt the moment I met author Don Abdul. He has such a relaxed vibe,and humble nature, you can't help but want to pull up a cyber chair and chat a while. We've been promising to do a fun project together whenever we can clear up all of our individual projects LOL. To date, that hasn't happened so, in the mean time, I thought I would at least feature him on my blog. If you've never heard of Don Abdul here's your chance to discover one of the few male erotic fiction writers in the business. If you are a fan, I hope you learn something new about him in this interview.

  • So Don, let me first thank you for being a guest on my blog. Let start with some of the basis. For readers who may not be familiar with with, tell us about yourself: Who are you and why did you start writing? Thank you very much for having me Gynger. I am Don Abdul, an easy going 43 year old man of many interesting parts.  I was born and raised in a small conservative town in Nigeria; my kinfolk would probably want to lynch me for writing such daring erotic fiction as I now do (Laughs). I enjoy being a single dad to two young boys. My books have also been published under the pen name Tyrese Jordan.

  • In addition to having published several books, and having a very active blog, I'm sure you are no stranger to reader comments and reviews. How do you react to a bad review of one of your books?  In my opinion Book Reviews are good, they are a barometer for gauging the readers reaction to a book. When they are good, they boost your confidence as a writer and show you’re on the right track. When they are bad, you can learn a few things about what improvements you need to make. In conclusion, I believe constructive criticism is fuel for growth in creative circles. As a writer I try to learn from them and move on to use them to improve my craft
  • Erotica can be extremely racy and I know your work can get really hot. As a male writing erotic fiction, I've often wondered do you have a lot of male fans or are they mostly female?My stories appeal to both male and female readers, although I have to admit that my female readers outnumber the male ones by quite a significant margin.
  •  The publishing industry can be very rewarding as you well know. There is that feeling of accomplishment and the awesome fans, but behind the curtain it can be a very challenging career. What are some of the challenges you've faced as a writer? Like many writers before me, rejection. This was tough as I was an unknown writer who lived in Africa. With wider consultations, and networking with other writers and published authors, I eventually discovered there was an ongoing revolution called electronic publishing. The popularity of ebooks was spreading like wildfire and I was talked through the process by a friend and mentor. My first ebook was published in 2010.
  •  I always tell people that I was a fan of reading well before I started writing. I have certain authors and genera's I love to read in my spare time( not that I have much LOL). Who are some of your favorite authors? I like to read books by James Patterson, John Grisham, and Tom Clancy
  •   We all have busy professional lives so tell me, what does Don Abdul enjoy doing when he's not writing? When the weather is right I like to go to the beach where I find that perfect spot and get very cozy with a good book, in between enjoying the other pleasures of the cool sea breeze and other sights and sounds.I also enjoy good movies and great music.
  •  I always ask this question because I like to know what drives a writer. Where do you get your inspiration from?  I am inspired by the wishes, aspirations and secret fantasies that form the interesting back stories in the lives of my characters, regardless of their public persona.
  •  Creating stories, submitting them and having them published can be a laborious undertaking. At the end of the day what motivates you to write? The same reason I started writing in the first place, my life doesn't feel complete without books and writing. I have a basic instinct to write, and writing helps put the world around me in proper perspective. It provides an escape from the tedium of life.
  • As a writer, I know we all have our  "babies;" those stories that are our favorites. Which of your stories is your favorite and why?

That would be Checkmate. It is my favorite because i enjoyed every moment of writing it. More importantly though, I love it because it speaks to the serious issues most people would normally gloss over for the sake of political correctness. It exposes the unspoken racial tension in the social dynamics of a supposedly racially liberal workplace and the delicate balance which has to be maintained in order to keep the peace.
It is a story that peels away the public persona of the characters and exposes their wishes, aspirations and the secret fantasies that form the interesting back stories which readers enjoy so much.

Say What?? LOL. Since Don wanted to give us the Ph.D version, I asked him to include a blurb. LOL 

Handsome black employee, Stanford Jordan, is seduced by Peggy, the daughter of the firm's white conservative Senior Executive, Constance Munroe. When their raunchy encounter is caught on tape, Peggy’s devious stepmother turns to blackmail. With no choice, Stan submits to her brutal domination. Humiliated, he enlists the help of ‘Fix,’ a childhood friend, in exacting the perfect revenge. Will the ruthless Domme concede when she suddenly finds herself at the mercy of the man she had so wickedly abused? Will Peggy discover their secret? Will Stan have to declare Checkmate and loose it all? 

Now that's more like it! Want to check out this hot and sexy story for yourself, click on the links below.

Buy Links:

Amazon Link:

  • Okay, here's my very last question so I'll make it fun(wink). all the ladies out there want to know one thing... Are you single or in a relationship?It’s complicated. LOL
Somehow I knew it would be!!! LOL. Okay, folks. I'm going to let Don get back to crafting more hot erotic fiction for the masses but be before he goes, Don has a special treat he'd like to share. Right now, he has a free read posted for you on Smashword. Yes, I said FREE!!! See how he likes to take care of his readers. :)

A Heroe’s Due

I want to thank Don for taking time out of his busy day to be a guest on my blog and thank you for taking the time to read it. If you'd like to see what's going on in Don's world or keep up with him, choose the social media link(s) of your choice. He's all over the place. LOL! 

Have an awesome day!!!

~Gynger Fyer~ The Romance Arsonist

Monday, May 6, 2013

Happy Masturbation Month!!!

I love that we have entire months dedicated to certain events and causes! Breast Cancer Awareness, Autism Awareness, AIDS Awareness,  Financial planning, Black history, Hispanic heritage. The list goes on and on. Imagine my surprise and delight when I found out about... MASTURBATION MONTH!

I've been personally masturbating for decades and never knew it had it's own month!  I'm have to say, I'm impressed.  I'm at ease with sex and my body so masturbating is a fun and easy topic for me to discuss. However, I have come across women who say they can't or won't masturbate under any circumstances. They don't even like to discuss the topic let alone do it. (Ironically, I haven't met any men with that hang up LOL.) They don't believe in using toys either. For them it's just plan ole sex or nothing at all. Yes, plain old sex can be really good too, but there's something to be said for having variety in ones sex life. I've asked why and  received reasons which range from, "it's dirty" to "it's a sin"

 I can respect another's opinion and preferences. I could even see how a person especially a woman may not feel comfortable doing it. As much as we like to think we have such an open society, sex is still taboo, and in some cultures and places, it's just not appropriate for a woman to please her self sexually without a man. Hell, in some RELATIONSHIPS, it's taboo. Women take care of everyone else but it's up to their men to take care of their needs and if a woman masturbates it's basically telling her man he can't take care of her. (Say what?) Yes,  I've heard that argument, I've heard of couples fighting over their partners enjoyment of masturbation. As if it means they don't love them or that they're a poor lover. This comes from women who don't like their MEN to masturbate!!! So it goes both ways. I don't think either argument is valid. Noble in some cases, but misguided if you ask me. No one should always be in complete control of another persons pleasure sexual or other wise, it puts you at the mercy of someone else. So you can't be fulfilled unless they are in the mood to make that happen. That's not good. Masturbation makes a person aware of their bodies, if you don't know what gets you off, how can you tell your mate how to please you. We are not all the same. What worked with one sexual partner will not automatically work with the next. So everyone needs to know what gives them sexual pleasure. Let's face it, sometimes you can come easier and quicker by doing it yourself. 

Don't get me wrong, I think couples masturbation is also sexy. The only thing better than bringing yourself to orgasm is having someone who's head over heels in love with you helping you do it...with no strings attached. I have personally never heard of a guy helping his lady to masturbate and then just kissing her good night or vice versa. Wouldn't that be an amazingly selfless gift to give to your mate this month. No expectations, just focusing on them and their needs. How awesome would that be. I think it would actually  shock a lot of people if someone did that. It's human nature to want to give back when we receive help from another person. It's difficult to just ACCEPT. Try it and see what happens. (Don't forget to let me know how your partner handles it.)

To me the body is beautiful. Being able to bring yourself to pleasure is the ultimate gift a person to give themselves.When you masturbate, you're concentrating SOLELY on your own needs.  When was the last time you did that? When was the last time you focused on yourself instead of others? It's not about your partner, it's about you. Lets face it, it feels hella good! You can let your mind go and explore all of those naughty things you are not supposed to enjoy. You can be as adventurous as you like. There are no sexual limits. Now that's powerful.

Sure, you may never get the opportunity to tie Robert Downey Jr. to an antique, Victorian style bed in real life. You won't ever be able to unbutton his black slacks and peel them off of his lower torso using  just your teeth. And you probably will never know how it feels to straddle his waist and have him to suck your nipples as you ride him into the sunset. (Whew!)  But! you sure could create that interlude in your mind and ride him seven ways to Sunday for the next 30 days!!


It's all about Y.O.U!! so take this month and treat yourself.  If you haven't tried it,  I encourage you to do it. Go on, touch yourself. You never know, you might like it.   

Wednesday, May 1, 2013

Does size matter...

This past week I've been inundated with conversations about sizes and proportions of everything from the ideal length of books to the ideal length of a penis. That's why I have decided to dedicate this blog post to giving my opinion on the question, does size matter?

People from all over the world read my blog and I hope I will get opinions from those readers as well. I want to know if size obsession is just an American thing.We seem to have decided, somewhere down the line, that in order for something to be considered valuable or pleasurable, it has to be BIG!

For example, we love our big cars and trucks, we have to have our big "McMansion" style homes, even if only two people live in them. We envy that big diamond engagement ring our friends hand..Yes, we want the things in our lives to be super sized.

Why do we do it? Well, I happened to believe somewhere along the way we started to equate bigger with being better.

My favorite size comparison deals with male penis sizes. We think big cocks are impressive, and we make jokes when we think a mans cock is too small. We are obsessed with length and width. It's pervasive throughout American culture. It's not just women, men think about it and joke about it as well. It's also racial, here "they" say black men have bigger ones then whites and Asian men are the smallest.  There are
scientist who have gone out and done polls about them. "They" have data to support their theories and, you know something,  I have not doubt there is a grain of truth in all of it, but it is by no means true for the collective.
Yet, we love to use this random scientific data as if it were the authority on he matter. Even though we have no idea where the information came from, or why the study was done or even how big the study was. We use the word 'They" to lend credibility to our arguments and it's understood that by invoking "They", you are getting the information nearly from it's original source.
When my girlfriends and I get together and the subject of men come up, there's always an off handed comment about size using "They" LOL,  "They say  black men...(insert grossly over generalized stereotype here)" or 'They say white men ...(insert grossly over generalized stereotype here)"

The truth of the matter is this, and every woman knows it. There is only ONE type of orgasm and that's the one you actually have! Yes, you can get to it by various means but the end result is still the same. I will personally admit that  I had my first vaginal orgasm with a guy who was only two-three inches!!!  When I saw it, I was very disappointed, I was younger and believed what "They" said about size.  I was in love with the guy so I wasn't going to embarrass him by mentioning it. Yes, inside, I had my WTF moment, It's only natural. He lifted weights and his body was hot, six pack abs, heavily muscled arms, amazingly ripped shoulders and back all that hotness surrounded a tiny penis LOL. Even erect, it didn't grow much longer. It seemed hopeless but, I hung in there and he not only banished all of what "They" said.  He made a true believer out of me. Whoever said it not the size of the wave but the motion in the ocean was right in my case. My socks and my blinders were knocked clean off.

 Sure, female and male porn stars take big cocks in all areas of their bodies as if it's nothing, and us mere mortals try to do the same, sometimes with painful, unsatisfying results. We forget one thing; they are porn stars! they get paid to make that look inviting and pleasurable. The average woman could not comfortably take ten to twelve inches, and if she can, more power to her, I am no less of a woman because I can't and I'm not going to brag about how I like ten inches and can handle a big man when I know good and well I'd rather have a pap smear at the hands of Dewayne "The Rock" Johnson before even thinking about it. (And you know he has some big hands)!

So, what do I believe? I believe, bigger isn't always better. Sometimes it's better to drive a Mini Cooper than a Hummer.

Sometimes it's makes more sense to live in a smaller flawlessly decorated home than a half empty McMansion.

A simple wedding band with a heart felt inscription can mean more than a five caret, platinum wedding ring.

I believe we miss out on some real treasures when we judge things by their size. I believe there is a lid for every pot. We are all trying to find our lid. My advice: don't judge a lid by it's size, your pot might not be as big as you thought it was.