"Match ya panties with ya bras, get ya shit together"

                                  "Match ya panties with ya bras, get ya shit together"- T.I. 
 Yes T.I. said it and so will I, ladies AND gents, don't come half assed to the Valentines love fest. You are trying to entice and woo your partner and that means making a strong showing. No, granny panties! and toss that bra that used to look cute two years ago when it still had the under-wire in it. 

For the guys, unless you go commando, no drawers with holes in them. I don't care how comfy they fit. If you are a boxers kinda guy, try switching it up with some sexy boxer briefs. Why do you think women still lust after Mark Wahlberg, it was how smokin he looked in those boxer briefs! or try some cute boxers. A good foundation could mean the difference between a hot night of mind blowing sex or business as usual.

And guess what people, it doesn't have to cost a fortune. It just has to look good. One of the awesome things about Valentines is that they have a ton of cute themed lingerie to spice up any lukewarm romance. 

So I know what some of you are thinking? Gynger, why go to all of this trouble when it's just going to come off any way. I'll tell you why! Because NOBODY likes getting an amazing gift handed to them in a plastic Walmart bag.  Most people like to see the pretty box with the bow and the note card on it. They want to take the lid off of the box and peel back layers of delicate tissue paper to get inside. That is a gift a man or a woman wants to savor. 

The next question I get is, well that looks good on her or him because they are models. You don't have to look like a model to rock sexy under wear. Look at this classy piece I peeped at Lane Bryant over the weekend.

 

Go on out and get you a few new things to surprise your mate or, if you're single, get something sexy that you would never buy for yourself. Even if you are just wearing it beneath your normal clothes, your will know it's there and I bet you will walk with a little more pep in your step. For the couples, if you still "love the one you're with," dress it up. Not only will you feel sexier, but your partner will LOVE the effort you put into your appearance. After all, romance is mental just as much as it is physical and it's all about the show!

So you wanna be startin sumtin! Pre-Valentines Tip #1

Did you know there was power in touch? Well, there it. So much so that touching yourself (*wink) or others has been known to heal, relax, reduce stress and give you and your partner a sense of well being.
There fore, my fist Pre-Valentines tip of the day is TOUCH!!

For couples, I suggest you start off with small gestures, especially if you or your partner are not used to touching each other intimately. When they walk by rub their arm or if they are standing still, give them a hug and a rub, on the back that is. A little touch here and there will get YOU everywhere!!!! for those of you who are used to touching. give your partner a foot rub but here's the thing. Be conscious about it. Ask them if you can give them a foot rub or how about a back rub or massage. Your partner will be putty in your hands after all is said and done.

Now for the sexy singles out there, when was the last time you took a bath LOL! Did you know touching yourself is as important as receiving touch. Try taking a bath instead of a shower and really focus on how your skin feels beneath your hands, connect with it. When you get out, massage some baby oil or lotion into your skin; don't just slap it on trying to get it done! make love to your skin, and don't look for perfection, or point out flaws. I did this and noticed tiny birth marks in places I had totally forgotten about. Those marks are unique and make me who I am. I loved seeing them and connecting with my skin again. Also, give yourself a scalp massage, really focus on your hair and skin. If you have the resources, go to a spa and have someone else touch you :) don't get arrested at a truck stop LOL! Groupon and Living Social have discounts on massages all the time so use them.

Want to know more about touch and how to do it the right way, check out this link. There are some great ideas and suggestions.

http://www.examiner.com/article/the-power-of-touch-and-its-benefits-on-your-sex-life

Alright already, less talking, more touching,

~Fyerfly
The Romance Arsonist

Love and Romance

As the big "V" day approaches, and the "V" stands for Valentines day, I can't help but become excited. I know what you're thinking; Gynger, we still have MLK day, The swearing in of President Obama, Mardi Gras, and the Super bowl to get through. How can you skip all of that and go right to Valentines day?

What can I say, the heart wants what the heart wants LOL! and mine wants Love, Intimacy and ROMANCE! not just for couples, but for EVERYONE.  You see, I am single(trying to remedy that situation) but that doesn't exclude me from participating in Valentines day. Perception is everything. You can and should fall in love with yourself and/or your significant other everyday! So, what would that look like. lets see....


How can you put some fyer and romance into your love life???

Over the next few weeks, I am going to post some romantic suggestions for singles and couples on this blog. *Also, join me February 7th in a live chat about Love and Romance as I co-host The Love Jones Experience with Goddess Jones on Tenacity online radio!!!!

Blessing you with Love and Romance!

Gynger Fyer~ XOXOX
The Romance Arsonist!!

Falling in love

I woke up this morning thinking about falling in love. Wondering, why does it have to be a fall? Why does it have to be laid out like a hole in the ground that we don't see until we are in it. Does that make it more passionate; more authentic than meeting someone you have similar interest with and slowly building that foundation of sustainable love. Sure, saying " I built love with him" is not romantic in the least or " I came to love him," does seem lackluster, as if going out and buying a good pair of sturdy shoes. LOL!

As the self titled Romance Arsonist, I want romance and falling in love to evoke feelings of a dynamic passion; that burns and smolders and remains red hot but, as a writer, I want my characters to have a foundation that will last; not built on instant attraction, which can be fleeting.

So, my question to myself was, how can I get the heat that I want, with the common sense that I want to see in the characters I read about. Mary Balogh is great at this and has always been one of my favorite authors to read, granted she writes full length historical romance novels and I am writing romantic and erotic novellas at the moment.Writing longer stories could be one way to get what I want, however, there is a challenge in writing a novella that does the same thing. I want my readers to come away from my novellas feeling as if they had just read a hundred or more pages about my characters and believe in the love I have created, even though it's only forty five pages long. That's the trick, that's the balancing act.

Falling in love should be fast, when we fall, gravity pulls at us and we experience a rapid descent, right?  Think about the last time you fell, did you have control? No, I doubt it. Were you left a bit shaken? Probably. I bet your heart was pumping a mile a minute, even thought the fall took mere seconds it probably seemed like a life time. That's what falling in love means to me, it's not that unexpected fall, it's the exhilaration as you descend into the hole, not knowing if you will be okay or if you will break something, namely your heart, at the end of your fall. Yes! that's what I will write about. The descent into love. Of course, I'll add a bit of Fyer along the way!

Are you ready for the fall?


~Gynger Fyer
The Romance Arsonist